Se cangkir nescafe sekeping roti..

 Berbekalkan se cawan nescafe setiap pagi, aku mulakan rutin harian.Jam sudah 7.07

Matahari masih samar samar di ufuk timur. Bunyi ayam ayam sekali sekala memecah sunyi pagi. Sebiji dua kenderaan meluncur laju .

Thats mundane.

Secangkir nescafe bersama roti 4 sagi as  we northerners call them is enough to last just until 10 or eleven. Then hunger would step in. So by then I would be in the kitchen rummaging the left over of last night dinner. Nasi goreng or whatever that I could savour.

Simple kan... No worry worry about lunch if I was alone. But ... there's cikli. He has to be cared for. Sometimes by 12, he needs his lunch pronto. 

Usually lunch is ready by 12. As by 10 latest I would be in the kitchen cooking.His fav dish is however my gulai ikan cooked totkton's way.

But today, I feel like making laksa.

Yesterday, I saw pictures of couples which I envy.

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TDM reading to his wife TDSH.

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And a few other couples in lovey dopey poses. Seronok tengok. Jauhlah makcikson nak display loving loving gitu. Bersemut dengan suami depan public. Muda tak buat, tua tua lagilah.Maybe our upbringing in an era that say no no to display of personal affection in public is the reason why.

Just to be honest. A wife affection to the hubby could be seen when she cooks his fav meals, looks after his needs not wants, jaga his maruah.Tak marah marah tanpa sebab. Berletiaq tak tahu masa dan tempat. No regards whatsoever.

Have seen even old spouses quarreling in public and been a matter of worry for the children. Se hinggalah seorang dari mereka sudah tiada. Baru habis cerita.

Nak ceritalah sikit... dudlu dulu masa mula kahwin, cikson rasa peranan isteri kena menempel dengan suami. Apa suami buat kena isteri buat. Macam shadow gitu...haha. But my cikli ni panas baran. Usah ditegur atau diberi pandangan cara dia selesaikan tugasan. Walau kita tengok tak berkenan. Or yang dia buat tu senget benget. Jangan tegur,kalau tak mau jadi sengketa.

So after a few rows over the matter, I quit. I biar saja apa dia nak buat. Bagaimana dia buat. Nak herot herotlah. Nak semak semaklah. I join him. Kan ada kata kata, if you cant win, beat him, join him. 

I found that quarreling, screaming,shaming didnt correct everything. But heart to heart talk did.I did buy books on communicating with difficult persons. Found the book useful for admins too. That time I bought books to learn how to manage fear and anger. Now you can find those stuff just by googling. 

Itulah rahsia cikson bertahan selama 41 tahun dengan hubby cikson nan sorang tu. 

Teringat kata kata seseorang. Mujur cikson kahwin dengan cikli.....Kalau tak entahlahh.. Hahahah.Lawak sunggoh.

Dengar cakap mak... apa apa pun perselisihan suami isteri, jangan tinggal rumah balik kampung. Selain kalau nyawa terancam. 

Cari jalan macamana nak selesaikan masaalah. Bukan lari dari masaalah. Kerana bila lari dari masaalah, masaalah itu tidak akan habis. Malah berkembang berlapis lapis.

Thats all folks. My say for today. Have a fruitful working day.

Love from Cikson.