The mons- ter s@us ...sibling rivalry

Notice any rivalry between the children? If none,its a job well done.If there are,then its time to ponder.
Normally,which is more prevalent ?
between the first born and the second
between the second and the last
or between the first and the last

Cuba kira berapa kali hari ini anda kata:
DIAM! Tak dengar kata!  Jangan berkelahi!
Dan berapa kali anda migrain bila mereka berebut barang,sampai rumah lintang pukang lagi teruk kalau bertarik rambut,gusti,taekwondo turut sama.

SHUT UP THIS VERY INSTANCE! You shout at the top of your voice adding to the din.

I notice sibling rivalry is much fiercer between the first child and the second and gender too play a monster.

Look  at the placing of the gender where sibling rivalry is dominant:

first child : a girl
second child : a girl
third child  : a boy
fourth child : a girl
The placement of the gender could be reversed.

Think back or if it is in the present, ponder :
How do you accept the first child. Tentulah with pomp and splendour.Tok ,wan,mak saudara tentulah suka tak terkira.Ditatang di jaga bagai permata.Nak apa,cakap saja.
How was your husband’s ( family ) reaction when the next baby is also the same gender –a girl
Bila orang tanya :eh dapat anak apa?
Si bapa tentu jawab: alaaa,perempuan lagi.Dengan nada sekerat hati.
Dan bila anak lelaki menjelma ,bapa ketawa riang tak terkira : Ye,yippe,aku dapat anak lelaki.Zuriat wei! Lihatlah dunia.

Dan paling tak tahan,anak diadu dumba dari kecil ;Pernah tak anda kata :

Simpan cepat,nanti adik buang!
Makan cepat ,nanti kakak ambik!

So,fikir balik,siapa sebenarnya yang empunya angkara,anak tak mesra sesama mereka.
Ibubapa kena halusi,gerak geri kita depa perhati.
Dont sow  the seed of hatred in your children.

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