well I have written about mak hang tak tau….and they do tell about husbands who admonish and snub their spouses in front of others and worse still infront of the kids.
And this is a another story.
The other day travelling in the car together,the wife couldn't help lose her cool when she was snubbed for just reminding her boy to check the necessary papers before they reached the destination.It was all very well intended. And the tone of her voice wasn't that too offensive..I might say.But…yes there’s a but,the husband took it as if the mother was ordering him (the boy)and there and then told her off.
Well,it was a common thing for him to reprimand her as if she had done a big sin.Especially regarding children.He would be there to defend them as if the spouse was torturing them.
La…mama hanya ingatkan saja.Takut nanti apa apa tertinggal.
Yes,it happened and happened frequently.
Apa salahnya menyokong dengan berkata:
Betul tu apa kata mak tu.Nanti sampai taklah tergopoh gapah.Simple kan.Ini tidak si mak pula yang dimarahnya.
Last night when they were travelling together,the wife brought the issue for a heart to heart discussion. She told him she doesn't mind being corrected but to be told off in front of the children was a big matter .She was made to feel like a fool and this may result in the children losing their respect for her.
And she gave him an example: What would he feel if she does the same to him.Every time he said anything to the children the mother would be ever ready to pounce back on him.And this she never did before.
I used to second him.To make the children understand that their father’s word is for their own good.She confided.
Entahlah,kadang kadang dalam rumahtangga ni macam ada perlawanan pula.Untuk cari popularity.Untuk cari siapa paling disayangi.Dan caranya adalah dengan menjadi peguambela.
Well,well…. a family is not built on that.Kita bukan ada pilihanraya atau pun dalam bicara.